No, you don't give him that measly 50 or 100 per week back. He had to live somewhere and it would have been much more for rent, groceries, utilities and all that if he would have had to pay it by himself. Whatever he gave you was just paying rent. Wasn't even enough to feed or support his own kids. The 5k is more than generous.
Tell his mom to bring it on - that YOU will be taking him to court - for child support - so he better get his act together quickly.
I wouldn't give him any money without talking to a solicitor.
If you have been together for years and years and he has been a significant care provider for the children and you are kicking him out and you make the money, you may be on the hook for child support and/or palimony.
You were very smart in not sharing home ownership with someone you are not married to. I really think you need to talk to an attorney before you give him one nickel. And just tune his mother out. I see no reason her opinion should count for anything. Besides, he's a grown adult, not a child.
I'm sorry about the whole situation, but you need professional legal advice. This is one of those situations where being "too nice" could get you into a whole lot of financial trouble in the future.
There is no question you need legal advice and I have no idea of divorce law in the UK, but in the US it varies depending on which state you reside. In some states you owe your ex half the increased value of the house since you have been together, while in other states the division is completely based upon which spouse actually paid the bills. And if you were never legally married ... well that doesn't necessarily entitle your ex to anything.
You need a lawyer who specialises in family law, where you live
If you are married it will most likely be a 50/50 split
You're being more than fair. I suppose you do need a lawyer--especially since that large inheritance is involved. But you're being fair.
see a solicitor before you do anything
I have had my own mortgage since I was 20yrs old, my partner and I have always lived together but he didnt go on the mortgage due to debts, which I helped him to clear. He closed his bank account and started working for my mum who sorted all his taxes and paid him in cash. we moved to a bigger house, with still just me on the mortgage, had two children and as the years passed the cracks started to appear. Our relationship has now broken down. We are still living together but its not good. In all the years we have been together he has paid ￡50 a week towards the bills. I have always paid my mortgage and all the bills have always come out of my bank. in the last year or so I have made him pay ￡100 a week, this still does not pay my mortgage, its not even half the bills (gas, electric, water, council tax, food etc).
I am currently trying to help him find somewhere to live thats local and will be suitable for our children. If it wasnt for them I would not help him at all with the way he is acting. I have offered him ￡5k which will cover 6 months rent, the deposit, and some furniture. His mother however is saying it isnt enough and he should take me to court. I would like to know where I stand and honestly if you think im being fair? I dont feel like I should have to give him his bill money back and also dont feel he is entitled to the profit in this house. I should also point out that I received a large inheritance which has left me with a very small mortgage
